Find the Strength

When life sucks and you have not the strength to carry on and carry forth, let others carry you.  Don’t think you can pull out of a bad situation on your own. I am very thankful for the people that came across my path and helped me in times of trouble and distress. Even though at the time I felt embarrassed, sad, mad, and particularly vulnerable, I swallowed my pride and gratefully accepted their help.

I know the feelings associated with not having things go your way. Losing a job, losing a loved one, losing a home due to flood or tornado, or even just being in the wrong place at the wrong time and now facing unpleasant consequences can pull you down.  But in times such as this, there is help. There are people and resources to provide you with information that you, and you alone has to take action.

But where do you get the strength to take action? From deep within your being; there is a ton of strength within you.  Look for it and believe it’s there for you to use. There are different ways to go about that. One way is to remember a time when “life sucked” and you made it through. Guess what? You can make it through again! Another way is to look around you. You are surrounded by people who are going through various degrees of challenges. Let’s face it, life itself is full of moments when you are doing well, and when you are not doing so well. But, rest assured both of these types of moments are temporary, which means when life sucks, it doesn’t suck forever!

Another way to find the strength to overcome life’s obstacles is to reach out. To do that you need to first recognize that the problem you are facing is not insurmountable and can be overcome with the proper information and resources. Next, ask for help from those places and people who have access to what you need. Then do whatever you need to do to make things better using the information and resources these places and people give to you.

Help is there for you and with your strength that resides deep within you, reach out for help and follow up with action. For it is the action you take today that can make it a better tomorrow!


AnnaMaria Bliven, MBA, MA


Saluting Those Who Served

Saluting Those Who Served

Thanks to all our Veterans who answered the call to protect and defend the Constitution of the United States.   Your sacrifices are appreciated.  Not seeking praise or recognition, you served out of a sense of duty and loyalty to our country.  On behalf of a grateful nation...Thank You.  

From Homeless to "Champion for Changed Lives"

By AnnaMaria Bliven, MBA, MA

There have been two times in my life when my world got turned upside down. I was penniless and homeless and the prospect of "tomorrow" seemed dismal, dark and disastrous. Both times I felt lonely, hurt and was in a fog not knowing where to turn. 

After many hours and many tears, and in both cases having lost everything, I realized something. I realized that I had been feeling sorry for myself, which I had a right to do, but at some point I had to make a plan to dig myself out of the hole. I decided right then to take a deep breath, pray and plan my way out of my depths of despair.

I did not like being without a home and job, and I had to do what I could to change this circumstance, especially for my children who depended on me. So, I prayed and while praying I was directed in prayer to visualize having a job and a home and then visualized people with resources helping me with what I needed. It wasn't long after that moment I had a place to live for me and my kids and was job hunting, which eventually helped me land not one but two job positions. 

Fast forward to the present day, and I am still working hard, but not just for me and my family, but to make a difference for other people, especially my brothers and sisters who are in the military and those retired from the military and their spouses. I designed work programs aimed at teaching people how to seek, find, apply, get and keep legitimate online, work-at-home jobs. I know how to tell the legitimate jobs from the scams. I have been earning an income and extra income working at home since 2002. 

There are literally 1000s of legitimate work at home jobs in various job sectors in customer service, data input/management, accounting, insurance, sales, online chat, online education (teaching and tutoring), just to name a few. There are companies hiring work at home full time, part time and flex time. There are also mini-jobs people can do to earn money instantly. For more information about these work at home job opportunities go to the website:

I have also entered into a project to hire military veterans with ConnectionsP2B. This is a member LLC, answering service taking care of calls, texts and emails on behalf of small businesses, and as an answering service to keep people safe as their "guardian angels." This program is 

only for military members and their spouses. This program allows a member to work and be monetarily rewarded for the amount of effort made to solicit and service small businesses and people. There is also a leadership development program in ConnectionsP2B for greater responsibility and greater monetary rewards. For more information about this membership work program, go to the website:

When life sucked for me, which was twice in my lifetime, I worked hard to make life better. It took time, patience and resources. I offer these work resources with the Work at Home Jobs Online and ConnectionsP2B work programs to those who might be interested. My strength to get through those "sucky" times was by praying and with my faith in God believing that He cares for me and will help me. There were some amazing people and the appointments to see them that came about to help me that were "divine appointments;" I know they were sent to me by God. So, keep praying, don't lose faith and "keep on keeping on" will get better. Get with me if I can be a help and resource for your circumstances. I am living the rest of my life as a "Champion for Changed Lives."

Overcoming Despair


Ancient writings are rich with the “real life” prayers of a warrior trying to get to a better place.   David was a soldier who experienced first hand the devastating effects of some tough events in life.  He had come to a point where he felt alone and even forgotten by God. He endured hardship over a long time and nothing seemed to provide relief. He felt alone, defeated, close to death, forgotten by God, and wrestled continually with dark thoughts and carried sorrow in his heart.  From the depths of despair, he prayed “Give light to my eyes”.   

Light to the eyes is like air to the lungs. This prayer shifted the warrior's attention from despair to what strengthened his spirit.  May light fill your eyes, and David's prayer in Psalm 13 renew your body, mind, and spirit.


Psalm 13 

How long, Lord? Will you forget me forever?

    How long will you hide your face from me?

How long must I wrestle with my thoughts

    and day after day have sorrow in my heart?

    How long will my enemy triumph over me?

Look on me and answer, Lord my God.

    Give light to my eyes, or I will sleep in death,

and my enemy will say, “I have overcome him,”

    and my foes will rejoice when I fall.

But I trust in your unfailing love;

    my heart rejoices in your salvation.

I will sing the Lord’s praise,

    for he has been good to me.

Foods that fight stress

One of the most frustrating things about stress is that it affects cravings in a big way. It’s obvious that most people don’t go for spinach or brussels sprouts when they are stressed. When life gets challenging, it is way too easy to overeat or eat unhealthy foods. The problem is that a moment of pleasure and comfort gives way to irritability, negative emotions, poor decisions, extra pounds, lack of energy, and a boat load of other unintended consequences.  Although everything inside of you makes you want to reach for your favorite candy bar, ice cream, or chips, it is like throwing gas on a  fire and can be dangerous to your health.  Tasty foods packed with sugar, synthetic ingredients, colors, flavorings, and preservatives put a great deal of added stress on the body.  Although there is no diet or food that cures stress and anxiety in and of itself, certain foods can go a long way towards relieving tension, stabilizing blood sugars, and restoring energy.  Foods that boost resilience, health promoting hormones, essential vitamins, minerals, and amino acids are critical for optimal function of the brain and nervous system.

Try the following foods to restore calm, strength, and energy: 

  • cold water fish (salmon, tuna, trout, herring, sardines, cod) 
  • avocados
  • bananas
  • spinach
  • asparagus 
  • blueberries
  • eggs
  • turkey
  • beans
  • chamomile tea
  • green tea
  • almonds, walnuts, cashews 
  • flaxseed
  • pumpkin seeds

Faith and spiritual support

“Now faith is confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see.” (Hebrews 11:1) 

For over 3 decades I have had the honor of providing spiritual support and care to people in the midst of dealing with fallout from traumatic events. Often I have asked people what gave them the strength to face the adversity that they were experiencing. The vast majority replied with something like “I don’t know what people do without faith.” Faith is a great strength during the dark times of soul.  It enables us to keep believing no matter what. There is no question that there are times when life doesn’t make sense and we wonder why terrible things can happen. It is faith that helps us recover the essence of who we are when crisis strikes at the core of everything that we hold dear.  Faith enables us to keep pressing on even when there is no relief in sight or any signs that things will turn out in a positive way.  

Mind over matters

Your mindset plays a key role in your perceptions, beliefs, expectations and actions. Negative thoughts tend to produce negative actions, and positive thoughts tend to produce actions. For instance, If you think that your DNA alone determines your health status, then you are not likely to be concerned about environmental factors or engage in lifestyle habits to strengthen your health. On the the other hand, If you think that exercise will make you healthier, increase your energy levels and help you to better cope with stress, then you are much more likely to invest the time and effort necessary to experience its benefits.  

Around 2000 years ago a man name Paul wrote a letter from prison to encourage people who were experiencing some tough times. He drew strength from a deep sense of purpose and a desire to help others experience the same.  He challenged others to think quality thoughts “Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me—put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you.  

What to do when you lose heart

There are certainly times in life when pain and difficult circumstances seem insurmountable and you feel like you’re done. It can be so overwhelming that all you think about is tapping out or throwing in the towel. Attacks of doubt, fear, frustration, anger, regret, judgement, criticism, gossip, and one bad experience after another will cause even the strongest person to lose heart. Looking to the bible is a great way to find strength and wisdom when you have had enough. King Solomon said, “Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life.” The heart is essential to life. Everything you do flows from your heart. It is much more than a muscle that pumps life giving blood and oxygen through your body (although that is really important)- it is also the source of passion, care, and courage in the face of adversity. I get that protecting yourself from life sucking negativity is no easy task. Science has shown that exercise is critical to restoring the heart after cardiac arrest. It may sound strange, but the principle of exercise will also help to guard your “wellspring of life” and restore a broken heart. It has been said “that the best defense is a good offense.” It is time to go on the offensive! Guarding your heart is not about being passive or just waiting to see what will happen. You gain ground by filling your heart with love, kindness, appreciation, words of encouragement, and forgiveness. The more you exercise these graces the stronger they get. Sharing in them will often protect you from “heart” attacks.